Anxiety doesn't have a hold over me like it used to but it is still something I have to manage. Every now and then I experience weeks when anxiety hovers around, when the low-level buzz of it is ever-present. This can be because I have been too busy or not sleeping well, or because there is unexpected stress in my life. It can also be because I haven't been looking after myself very well and self-care has been neglected. It can be for no obvious reason at all.On these weeks I employ all the tactics I know to try and...

Do you feel restless?Are you waiting for the next thing; the next job, or weekend, or night of unbroken sleep?Is your heart drumming it's fingers on the desk?Are you impatient?And how's your soul?Are you at peace?Do you know contentment? Can you experience quiet and rest?This weekend I spent time with my sister and my Mum. These two wonderful women are both very active people.They are energised by being do-ers.They do stuff. They get stuff done.And in the action of fulfilling these tasks they find satisfaction. For them it seems this active, busy life is life-bringing.In years gone by after some time...

Today I am delighted to welcome Tim Grayburn to the blog.Tim Grayburn is a former advertising executive turned performance artist, actor and writer. He co-wrote and performed in his debut theatre show “Fake it til You Make it’ which focused on his own experience of depression. It went on to win ‘Best Theatre’ award at Perth & Adelaide 2015 Fringe festivals. The tour continued with further success in a sold out 4 week run during the Edinburgh 2015 Fringe winning the Herald Angel ‘Best Theatre’ award. He is the author of – ‘Boys Don’t Cry’ an autobiographical tale and exploration...

Hi,I think it might be time to take stock. To think about the things that are tricky. The things you want to ignore and brush under the carpet.I say this because, as you well know, acknowledgement is the first step. You have to see it before you can do anything about it.And the truth is:You are not okay right now, and that is okay.Honestly, it is.You feel low. And that's okay. You don't have to be great all the time.You are allowed to have a bad week, or month. It doesnt necessarily mean another crash is on the way. (In fact this...

To start, some truth:January can be hard.And if you are finding it hard, that does not make you weak.Because it can be hard.I feel this is worth repeating, let me make sure you know before you read any further:it is okay to be finding it hard. You are okay.So, Christmas is over, the decorations have been taken down and any post-holidays fog of wine and chocolate has lifted and been replaced by the stark reality that we are in a new year. 2018 is here. Everywhere there are adverts inviting me to become a 'new me' in this new year....

I love Christmas. I love a reason to celebrate, to eat good food and make a fuss. I love the full sensory experience, the smells and the decorations, lighting the candles and listening to the music.I am no scrooge.However, over the years Christmas has become a  bit much.I have made it a bit much.I am an all or nothing kind of person. I am not very good at self-control and moderation, and Christmas has always been a time to revel in this side of my personality.I want to do ALL of it.I want to have special meals with all my different groups of...

Last month my friend Sri and I had a four day break in Lisbon. We are old friends (we met in sixth form) and have not holidayed together since we were 19 (a fabulous two week adventure in Italy, as you asked).This break had been a long time coming.On the first night we were there I had a panic attack. A fairly impressive one.Normally when I have a panic attack I hide, or flee the scene sharpish. And, until last month the only person who has sat with me during a panic attack is my husband.I am not unusual. I...

A few weeks ago I wrote a letter to my strong, exhausted friend. (You can read it here.)At so many points in my life I have been the person who needed to read that letter, and often still am.But I am re-learning how to live and a large part of this has involved re-discovering how to rest.I know rest is important, and yet I don't make it a priority. It gets squeezed out. I find myself exhausted, falling into bed either to sleep fitfully or to lie awake aware of all I still need to do but haven't managed to...

Hi, my name is Elli and I'm a people pleaser.A recovering people pleaser.I want to make other people happy.Which always seemed like a good goal to have.But this well-intentioned aim got me into hot water. Back then. About ten years ago life was tiring.My girls were tiny and I was pregnant with my son.I had lots of friends and a brilliant husband who was very busy with work.I ran a small group in church which was made up of lots of fantastic women who were also in the same life stage as me.We were all tired all the time.We were always making...

Not all the causes of anxiety can be rectified quickly or easily. I have found through personal (and often painful) experience, there are certain mindsets and patterns of behaviour that take months, or even years, to unpick.That may not sound very encouraging, especially if you are battling anxiety right now, in this moment.But fear not, there are some things you can do to lessen your anxiety here and now in the middle of your busy day, or stressful season.These are some practices that have worked for me:Breathing Slow. I know I often write about the importance of slowing your...